MANILA — Actor-host Ogie Diaz's daughter Erin cried over not clinching any academic award leading up to her Moving Up Day.
And while the situation disappointed her, her father only had reassuring words.
In a Facebook post that has since gone viral with some 250,000 reactions as of this posting, Diaz shared a conversation he had with Erin about getting recognition in school.
“Sino bang magulang ang ayaw na may medal, may awards, may honors ang anak?” Diaz wrote, as he recalled an exchange he had with a fellow parent who had asked him how he felt about his daughter not being part of the honor roll.
(What parent wouldn't want his or her child to have a medal, awards or honors?)
“Umiyak pa ang anak ko bago ang Moving Up Day, dahil wala daw siyang nakuha kahit na ano,” he said.
(My daughter even cried before Moving Up Day because she did not get any recognition.)
At the time, he said, he reassured Erin: “Okay lang 'yan, 'nak. Basta hindi ka kulelat at alam mong ginawa mo naman ang best mo.”
(That's ok. As long as you did not come last and you know you did your best.)
He then shared with his followers an advice he and his wife, Georgette del Rosario, would tell their children when it comes to their studies.
“Lagi kong sinasabi sa mga anak ko, di baleng walang awards or honors, basta hindi babagsak, at hindi sakit ng ulo ng lipunan, mabuti kang tao, happy na kami ng mama nila.
(I always tell my kids, it's ok not to have awards or honors as long as they don't get failing grades or become a headache in society, as long as they are good people, their mom and I are happy.)
“Ang tunay na laban ng buhay ay nasa labas ng eskuwela. Importante ang abilidad at diskarte na wala sa curriculum, kundi nasa'yo, nasa impluwensiya ng mga tamang tao sa paligid mo,” he wrote.
(The real fight in life is outside school. What is important are abilities and how you navigate life, that is not in the curriculum but within you, the influence of the right people around you.)
Narrating his conversation with Erin, Diaz said his daughter brought up how some of her classmates feel pressure from their parents to be achievers in school, prompting his response about different parenting styles and expectations.
In their family’s case, Diaz told Erin that he actually wouldn’t object should she decide not to pursue a college degree, but with certain conditions.
“Sabihin mo nga lang sa akin na tatapusin mo lang ang senior high school at ayaw mo nang mag-college, okay lang sa akin. Basta sa isang kundisyon—kukuha ka ng at least, 5 crash courses one at a time, dahil baka isa dun, matumbok mong gusto mo pala at yun ang itutuloy-tuloy mong ima-master. Dahil gusto ko, gawin mo kung saan ka masaya and at the same time, nata-translate mo 'yung happiness mo into income,” he recounted telling Erin.
(Just tell me you would just finish senior high school and not go to college, that's OK with me. But on one condition- you will get at least 5 crash courses one at a time, because perhaps with one of those, you will figure out what you really one and continue until you master it. Because what I want is for you to do what makes you happy and, at the same time, you are able to translate your happiness into income.)
“So, ano, nak? You will just finish senior high o magka-college ka after?” Diaz then asked his daughter.
(So are you just going to finish senior high or go to college after?)
“Magka-college ako, daddy,” she answered.
(I will go to college, daddy.)
“Okay. If that will make you happy, I will support you all the way.”