MANILA – Basketball player Doug Kramer finally broke his silence after several netizens criticized a recent social media post of his wife, model Cheska Garcia.
In a series of Instagram posts on Monday night, Kramer defended Garcia’s comments on marriage, particularly on wives submitting to their husbands.
Citing a Bible passage, Garcia wrote: “Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”
Kramer responded to netizens who slammed them for being “patriarchal,” saying that she and Garcia only have different marriage roles that are equally important.
“I never treat or make Cheska feel she is inferior to me. In fact, I make her feel more important that myself. But this doesn’t take away my leadership and stand to lead my family,” he explained. “And I mean this in all aspects. I choose to lead my family financially, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. And guess who is my partner when I fall short at times? My wife. She gives life to our family. She gives me motivation to be the best father and husband to my family.”
“So is a wife’s role just as important as a husband? Yes! But do they have the same roles? No!” he continued. “Take this, for example. Why do you think there are no two CEOs to run a company, or two Presidents to run a country? Because there has to be one leader, one voice that you hear deliver the important statements. But I’m sure every decision these leaders make, they consult first and weigh what is the best decision to make.”
Reacting to the idea of a wife’s “submission” to her husband as mentioned by Garcia, Kramer said: “What does submission to your husband mean according to the Bible? Does it mean like this, ‘Hey you woman, make me a meal, or wash the dishes now, or give me what my body wants?’ Is this the kind of submission you really think the Bible means?”
“In our setup for our family, when there are decisions or choices that need to be made, I consult my wife first. We talk about it. Her input and suggestion matters because she is the mother of my kids and I love her. In the end, I will consider all things and make the final decision that will be best fit for my family.”
Kramer went on to reiterate that his wife is still able to pursue her passions and help their family grow despite “submitting” to him.
“Does Cheska stop being productive and just submit and submit? Nope! In fact, she gets restless at times. But she uses her restlessness to think of how she can also help in other aspects and be productive, like with finances of the family through business ventures, partnerships and collabs. She’s done so much,” he said. “These are just ways to show that submission to your husband doesn’t mean you also stop existing.”
Meanwhile, Kramer said wives can take on a leadership role in the family, too, if their husbands cannot properly take care of the household. But their current setup, he said, is what works for him and Garcia.
“To the wives, if your husband doesn’t know how to handle the family’ finances, I suggest you take over. But teach him, too, the proper way so in the future, he may possibly lead and may make better decisions. A marriage is a daily working partnership,” he said.