MANILA – A scorned wife confronting the mistress of her cheating husband is a common scene in television shows and movies, and is considered by many as the best course of action when faced with a similar situation.
Maricar Reyes and Richard Poon, however, find this problematic.
The celebrity couple – who has gained a following online for giving sound advice on marriage and relationships – stressed that the problem with cheating is not just with the “third party.”
Poon, in particular, believes that it is a symptom of a bigger problem between partners.
Reacting to female fans who asked for their opinion about cheating husbands, he said in a video posted on their YouTube page: “The problem is not the other woman. The problem is ‘yung asawa mo saka ikaw merong something to fix in your relationship. So focus on that.”
He added: “Every time may affair, hindi namin ginagawa ni Maricar to advise [na], ‘sige lusubin mo ‘yung babae, kausapin mo’… Mag-focus ka sa partner mo, ‘may pagkukulang ba ako sa ‘yo kaya pumatol ka doon sa kabila?’ Iyon ang magandang question kasi the fact na pumatol siya, ibig sabihin doon may kulang ‘yung relationship niyo, may hinahanap siya.”
Poon went on to say that a faithful spouse will never succumb to temptation, no matter how hard other people may try.
“Kapag ‘yung lalaki ayaw mag-cheat, kahit na anong gawin ng babae na landiin siya, hindi naman siya bibigay eh,” he said. “So if you keep on focusing on the girl, nagsasayang ka ng energy. Ang may problema is actually your partner. Gusto rin ng asawa mo, kaya nagkaroon ng affair.”
Reyes, for her part, said that focusing on the “third party” will only lead to bigger problems in the future.
“[Kapag nag-focus ka sa kabit], ang dahilan kung bakit siya nag-cheat in the first place hindi maaayos. Sige, sinugod mo ‘yung girl, natakot na sa ‘yo. It’s only a matter of time at makakahanap ‘yung asawa mo ng isa pa na magbibigay ng need na hinahanap niya,” she said.
The actress then shared her thoughts on why more mistresses have the gall to be open about their relationships.
“Meron kasing nag-comment na ang lalakas na ng loob ng kabit ngayon. That’s very true, but that does not make them right. Pero ang amin lang kasi, what empowers the kabit? Ano ‘yung nagbibigay sa kanya ng confidence? ‘Yung pagmamahal nung guy or ng cheating spouse. Kung hindi nila ramdam na ramdam ‘yung ‘pagmamahal’ at the time, hindi rin sila magmamatigas nang ganun,” she said.
Watch the full vlog of Poon and Reyes below: