Soldier surprises wife with church wedding 10 years after civil rites

Angela Coloma, ABS-CBN News

Posted at Feb 16 2019 03:09 PM

Charity Joy Depita shared on Facebook how her soldier husband, Maj. Redenson Austria Depita, surprised her with a grand church wedding in San Nicolas Church in Iloilo this February instead of their planned April church wedding date. Photo courtesy of Charity Joy Depita

MANILA - Church weddings come with meticulous planning, both on the part of the bride and the groom to be. But for one netizen, her dream church wedding came slightly different than planned. 

Charity Joy Depita shared on Facebook how her soldier husband, Maj. Redenson Austria Depita of the Philippine Army's 11th Infantry Division, surprised her with a church wedding in San Nicolas Church in Iloilo this February instead of their planned April church wedding date. 


In her Facebook post, Charity, who had married Redenson in civil rites 10 years ago, said her husband told her they were going to attend a co-soldier's wedding participating as a maid of honor and best man, respectively. 

While preparing, she felt confused with the gown she was being made to wear, but Redenson then told her that the wedding had a contest for the best gown. She also asked photographers and make-up artists the same question but to no avail. 

"He [the make-up artist] said 'sabi daw ni sir pagandahin [kasi] contest. So, I have no choice na, naging sunud-sunuran na lang ako," she said. 

(The make-up artist said it was Redenson's orders to doll me up because of the contest. So I had no choice but to go with it.) 

As the bewildered Charity was finished dressing up, the groom told her that the bridal car would pick her up and that he would go ahead because he was going to tend to the wedding's swordsman - a task he had to fulfill as the groom's "best man." 

Once she arrived at the church and was given a veil to wear, she was shocked to see her wedding guests, including her parents, at the venue.

That’s when she realized that she was actually in her own wedding. 

"Nang makababa na ako ng car, nagulat ako nang nilagyan na ako ng belo, lalo akong napaiyak... sabi ko nalang 'akala ko sa April pa?' ... Then I realized, wedding day ko na pala," she said. 

(Upon getting off the car, I was surprised when I was given a veil. I felt like crying. I said "I thought our wedding was in April?" Then I realized that it was my wedding day.) 

Photo courtesy of Charity Joy Depita

Swordsmen were lined up as she was given the grand welcome for the military church wedding they planned for April. 

"Naglalakad ako nang parang nakalutang, kahit wedding song habang naglalakad ako 'di ko naririnig. 'Di ko alam kung paano ako nakarating ng altar. Hindi pa rin ako makapaniwala. Para akong na [black] out," she recounted. 

(I felt light-headed walking down the aisle. I couldn't even hear the wedding song as I walked. I didn't know how I was able to reach the altar. I still couldn't believe it.) 

She was also concerned about not having confessed as a requisite to the wedding, but the priest had her covered as she was allowed to have her confession right before her wedding. 

Since it was uploaded on February 9, her Facebook post has received 12,000 reactions and nearly 5,000 shares.


In a online interview with ABS-CBN News, Redenson said he pushed through with the plan in 2018 to fulfill his wife's wish for a church wedding. 

"Kasi parang yearly, nagtatanong siya kung kailan kami ikakasal sa simbahan. So 'yun ang nagtulak sa'kin," he said. 

(Every year she asks me when we're going to have a church wedding. So that's what pushed me.)

Photo courtesy of Charity Joy Depita

Redenson said the outfits and the venue were carefully planned to maintain secrecy. 

He informed their friends and family about the plan beforehand and asked promptly not to tell his wife about it. 

Photo courtesy of Charity Joy Depita

It also came to a point where he said he took his wife's phone so she wouldn't get any additional details from other people

"Masasayang po kasi (It will all come to waste)," he said, referring to the effort it took to conceal the plan before the big day. 

Redenson revealed that the wedding was supposed to be in 2018 but they postponed it to April in time for their anniversary month.

He also said he did not expect his wife's post to blow up online. But after all that, he said the effort was for the future they will track together in the long run. 

"Hindi naman ako perfect, but I will do my best na maging mabuting husband," he said. 

(I am not perfect but I will do my best to become a good husband.)