MANILA—Toni Gonzaga welcomed followers into her personal life through her latest vlog released on Tuesday, where she interviewed her father, Bonoy, about his strict parenting style and how that has molded her values as an individual, and now as a parent herself.
The vlog coincided with Bonoy’s birthday, Toni said, before she began interviewing her father inside a moving vehicle.
The conversation unfolded casually, as it hopped from one topic to another, including Bonoy’s strict rules and punishments for both Toni and her younger sister, Alex, when they were younger.
Toni also asked her father why she and Alex were disallowed to have boyfriends when they were teenagers.
“Kasi ayaw namin kayo magsisi,” he explained.” “‘Yung kung ano ‘yung magustuhan ninyo . . . Hindi pa kaya bumabalanse. Kayo kasi, ‘pag teenager pa, puro damdamin ‘yan, e. ‘Gusto ko ‘yun!’ Ngayon, malaki ka na, nag-iisip ka na. ‘Gusto ko ‘yun,’ pero meron ka nang, ‘kaya lang.’”
Bonoy then explained to Toni why he had been cold towards the actress’ husband, filmmaker Paul Soriano, when they were still dating. The couple got married in 2015, after eight years of being together.
“Kailangan makita niya na mayroong nag-po-protekta sa inyo. Lahat ng ama, ‘pag ang anak nila ay babae at may nanliligaw, sinusuri ng lahat ng magulang ‘yan. Dapat diyan bina-bluff kaagad,” he said.
Toni, who now has a 2-year-old son with Soriano, has made no secret of having abided by traditional standards set by her parents growing up. That has translated to giving up certain experiences, such as going on vacations with her partner.
Bonoy, as revealed in the vlog, also advised against many of Toni’s suitors when she was young. The two even did a back-and-forth on the topic, where Toni mentioned names (censored from the viewer) and Bonoy gave descriptions to justify his disapproval of each back then.
Narrating her reflection at the end of the video, Toni can be heard saying: “I realized that the pain of discipline is better than the pain of regret. The man who I thought broke my heart before was actually the one who saved my heart from being broken so many times.”