It is great to believe that we create our own reality. Our life is only a reflection of our thoughts. We succeed or fail depending on our own expectations of ourselves. If we don’t conquer our doubts and fears, we may get stuck in lives we will regret. However, if we have faith that we will succeed, we will most likely amaze ourselves.
The book "The Ultimate Introduction to NLP,"* by Dr. Richard Bandler, Alessio Roberti and Owen Fitzpatrick says our understanding of the world is based on an internal map we fashion ourselves. This map is made up of our own ideas, values, knowledge and preconceptions. Can we create a map that leads us to our success and happiness?
Surely! But first, we must have faith in ourselves.
Napoleon Hill, advisor to US President Franklin D. Roosevelt, wrote the book "Think and Grow Rich" which has sold over 100 million copies. In that classic, he said faith in oneself is the foundation of all of man’s successes throughout history. Continents were discovered and great things were invented because men and women believed in their power to achieve. To have faith in ourselves, he recommended autosuggestion.
Autosuggestion is the act of feeding our subconscious mind with positive thoughts. You may do it through affirmations and visualization.
Let me share with you how I do my affirmations and visualization. Before bedtime and upon waking up, I talk to God through a prayer of gratitude. I say things like:
Thank you, my God, for making me a magnet of an overwhelming amount of love. You give me your immense love together with my mother, Mary. I attract so much love from my family and other loved ones. I am loved by my fellow servants in Couples for Christ, by my officemates, my friends and former classmates, the people who read my social media and by so many other people that I do not even personally know. These people make me feel good and also help me succeed because they share their support and their talents.
Thank you for making me a magnet of good health. Every second of the day, you are perfecting my health. You are miraculously restoring my body and when needed, you are giving me access to the right specialists and the best medicines.
Thank you for making me a magnet of knowledge and wisdom. You give me books, videos ,movies, experiences and people to learn from. They enhance my talents so I can better serve and inspire many people through my work and my hobbies.
Thank you for making me a magnet of material wealth. You prosper my life and you give me so much more than enough because I am also a channel of blessings for many people. My storehouse is spilling over because you are a God of plenty.
Thank you for making me a magnet of endless opportunities. For everything that will give happiness and fulfillment to me and my family, I am always the right person in the right place at the right time.
(This is only a short sample of what I pray about. My prayer time usually lasts thirty minutes.)
You may notice my prayer is simply thinking about happy things. Too optimistic ?
Tali Sharot is a professor of cognitive neuroscience and winner of the British Psychological Society’s Book Award. She wrote the book "The Optimism Bias" in which she said optimistic people are more likely to succeed because they are better at bouncing back from setbacks. Their brain immediately adjusts perception so that failures look like reasons to learn and get better.
She also said that when we imagine happy things, our feelings are more intense than when we are actually experiencing them. It is good to keep thinking of happy things because it is great for our health.
Stem cell biologist Bruce H. Lipton asserted in the book "The Biology of Belief" that the thoughts we plant in our minds actually influence our abilities. For example, children who are always told that they’re smart truly become smarter. I think it's similar to programming a computer.
You may also notice my affirmations are full of adjectives to mean overflow.
Psychotherapist Wayne W. Dyer, in the book "You’ll See It When You Believe It," counseled we should not be afraid of imagining abundance. A scarcity mentality prevents us from thinking of greater things. For example, the fear of not having enough money forces us to take jobs we don’t even like. He advises us to focus on what we truly want because what we envision in our brain determines what we will do.
The great things we see in our mind will soon become our reality. Just never doubt.
“All the land that you see I will give to you and your offspring forever.” (Genesis 13:15)
“He replied, 'Because you have so little faith. Truly I tell you, if you have faith as small as a mustard seed, you can say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move. Nothing will be impossible for you.” (Matthew 17:20)
(*Neuro-Linguistics Programming is a controversial new science because some scientists think of it as a pseudo-science. But for me, there are many things about it that are credible because NLP branched out of psychotherapy.)
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Robert Labayen spent 22 years in advertising prior to joining ABS-CBN in 2004. He was VP-Creative Director at Saatchi & Saatchi and Executive Creative Director at J. Walter Thompson, two of the country's leading ad agencies. He is currently the Head of Creative Communications Management at ABS-CBN. His job involves inspiring people to be their best. He is a writer, painter and songwriter.
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