MANILA, Philippines – Six years after admitting that he is gay, actor Rustom Padilla, who is now known as BB Gandanghari, said he is still looking for a partner to grow old with.
Speaking to reporters on Sunday, Gandanghari said he still believes in finding a lifetime partner who will appreciate him for who he really is.
“Of course, in the end, I want to have a partner to grow old with. Itong nakikita ninyo ngayon, part ito ng pangarap ng BB na one day, magkaroon ng [partner]... I want to be with someone who can appreciate what he sees,” he said.
Gandanghari said he isn’t seeking his family’s approval anymore. But he also admitted that it would be better if the time will come that he can introduce that special someone to his mother and siblings.
“I’m matured enough to decide on my own. But in the end, gusto ko rin 'yung maipapakilala ko. 'Yung puwede siyang humarap sa pamilya, puwedeng makipag-usap sa pamilya,” he said.
Gandanghari said some of his siblings are not yet prepared to see him with another man.
“Yung mga sisters ko, may iba na okay naman. Pero 'yung mama ko, hindi pa nila nakikita 'yung ako na may nakaka-date. Hindi pa, hindi pa. I can sense na sensitive pa sila pagdating sa mga ganyang mga usapan,” he said.
Despite this, Gandanghari said he is willing to live his own life.
“Kung dumating talaga 'yung tamang tao, 'yung talagang may mararamdaman ako at maipaparamdam naman sa akin na importante ako, susunod na lang 'yun lahat eh. Ang importante, 'yung makakita ako ng tao na puwede kong mapagkatiwalaan. 'Yung normal na relasyon na supporting, Especially kapag marami kang ginagawa, you just need someone who can support you and believe in you and inspire you,” he explained.
Adult Home care
But if ever he does not find this lifetime partner, Gandanghari said he is open to the idea of growing old in an adult home care in the United States.
“Inilagay ko na rin sa isip ko na kailangan ko mag-ipon para sa adult home care [sa America] na puwede ka pumasok tapos active sila doon. Para sa akin, puwede na rin 'yun. It’s almost like going to high school again and parang naka-dorm ka lang din, may nag-aalaga sa iyo. Ang tingin ko sa aging, nasa ganung sistema,” he said.
Asked why he wants to grow old in the U.S. rather than here in the Philippines, Gandanghari said: “Of course hindi ako nagsasalita ng tapos. May nakita kasi ako doon eh, parang enjoy kasi. Alam mo naman sa America, malawak. Siyempre by that time, nag-retire ka na. At least 'yung privacy mo, mapre-preserve doon. Siyempre kapag matanda ka na, ano pa bang importante kundi privacy. I think sa America ko makukuha 'yun.”
Meanwhile, Gandanghari also revealed that he is considering adopting a child so he can take care of someone.
“Kasi alam mo, seven years ago, nagkaroon ako ng need to connect and then I got a dog. This dog, kasama ko na ito for seven years. Doon ko na-realize na marami kang ibinibigay, may connection kayo and yet walang expectations. Ganoon din ang pakiwari ko, parang I think gusto kong magkaroon ng adopted na anak kasi gusto ko ulit magkaroon ng connection,” he said.
He stressed that won’t adopt a child just to have someone who will take care of him when he is older.
“Naniniwala kasi ako na kapag nag-adopt ka, papalakihin ko 'yun to be independent para magkaroon siya ng sariling buhay niya later on, hindi para alagaan ako. As I’ve said, okay na ako sa idea na ipapasok ko ang sarili ko sa adult home na puwede akong maging active until I expire. Hindi ko iaasa ang sarili ko sa isang taong tutulungan ko ngayon na aalagaan ako later on. I think that would be unfair,” he explained.