We often hear this phrase when someone experiences a setback.
A few days ago, I spent a whole day session with 50 employees who are about to retire after serving their company for 20 years or more and building close relationships with co-workers along the way.
"Move on" is what I prefer to use over "retire." The person is just changing and shifting to another chapter of life. Retirement is not the end of the road.
What does it take to move on?
First, it lies on the mindset of the person. In whatever circumstance, whether having a broken heart, a sour family relationship, a setback in business or retirement, the individual possesses the key to start the engine of his mindset to work.
What is in the mindset? It entails a strong will and determination to move on. It means instilling a discipline for consistency.
Some people do not like to move on simply due to emotions. The bond created and strengthened with co-workers has become difficult to leave behind.
The work place has turned into a second home. Come to think of it, there are more hours spent in the workplace than with the family.
Second is identifying goals. A goal is something that we strive to attain. Having a far-reaching goal may be taxing and lead to dropping out. Write a goal that is easy to attain, then go for the next level.
Celebrities, professional sports players and those we admire did reach their goals without overcoming hurdles.
Third is avoiding procrastination. It is easy to say “I’ll do it tomorrow,” yet when that day comes, another excuse is made.
One has to be firm. The most challenging part may be the first two weeks or more. It all depends on the individual.
I could recall the time when I suffered a blow in my life. An accident happened in 2005 at the airport of Tuguegarao City on my way back to Manila. The loading zone, which was made of muhon (cornerstone), was not well placed. Upon stepping on one of cornerstones, I fell to the pavement. It almost caused my life had it not been for my laptop bag, which went ahead of me. My head landed on it while my hip struck the concrete.
In short, I broke my right hip, which required immediate surgery and rehabilitation. It was painful trying to learn how to walk again. After four days, I wanted to give up, rest in bed, and get moved around in a wheelchair.
However, I found hope after watching the late night television show "700 Club."
One phrase struck me: "If you want to be healed, you can be healed." I got better after 30 days and was moving without a wheelchair or a cane.
Fourth is celebrate. Each day, create awareness of the progress. It is like when we began to go to school. We become so proud of the drawing and even the star given to us by our teachers. The more we celebrate the more we are inspired to move on.
Fifth is every time we recall those moments sad or happy we had in the past, let it remain as part of our lives.
For questions and more information, you may contact Armando "Butz" Bartolome by email: [email protected] or on Twitter https://twitter.com/philfranguru. His website is www.gmb.com.ph